I have prayed for him. My husband has prayed for him. We have both prayed with him. We have talked with him separately and together. We have talked to each other about this particular issue. I have talked with an adult who can help, to an extent. Really, at this point, there is nothing else to be done. But as I sat with my steaming cup of strong black (okay, not so strong...it is still decaf) cup of coffee earlier, I realized what I want for my son more than anything in this situation: I want him to know and feel, with certainty, that God is with Him. Isn't that just it? No matter what I'm going through, big or small, tragic or trivial, I want to know that God is with me! And if I know and can feel that His presence is with me, I am okay! I know that everything will eventually be okay.
We cannot, as parents, interject ourselves into every situation our child deals with. We cannot come to their rescue at every difficult moment. No matter how much we may want to, we cannot possibly shelter them from every tough battle they go through. We can and should seek God for wisdom, help, and protection. But at some point, we have to be willing to turn them over completely to God's care. He is the only one who can be with them at all times. No, He doesn't always keep them from problems and difficult circumstances, but He will be with them. That is the one truth that I want each of my children to know with complete certainty. I want them to know that God is with them.
So, as I take another sip of my semi-strong black cup of coffee, I am encouraging myself with these promises from God's word. I'd like to encourage you as well. These are the promises that I'm praying over my son as he faces another day. These are the promises I want my youngest daughter to know as she cries "but I'm gonna miss you!" again while heading out to the bus. These are the promises I want my oldest daughter to know as she musters the courage to ride bare-back at horse riding lessons for the first time. These are the promises that I want each of my children to know, deep in their soul...
"Yes, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me." Psalm 23:4
"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
"...And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." Matthew 28:20
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9
*I am having Coffee For Your Heart with my friend Holley Gerth today.